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The Game of Life

Turning Conflict into Cooperation

This timeless book outlines the guiding principles and rules for preventing turmoil in relationships. It shows you how to get others to align with your personal and professional goals. Another great read from Dr. Jim Murray.

Understand the games people play and why normal emotional responses are ineffective. Find out how to benefit from human nature rather than fighting it. Learn how to get your work done without undue frustration, anger and confusion. Take back control of your life.

Discover how to befriend bullies, manage manipulators and tame tough guys. Learn how to win over bureaucrats, dinosaurs, know-it-alls, pessimists, wafflers, whiners, rebels and other challenging players in the game – the ones who cause the greatest stress, conflict  and sheer wasted time in our lives.

Early readers summed up their feelings about the book this way:

“… uncanny insight on what makes people tick.” 

“It’s always in my briefcase…” 

“One of the most rewarding books on maintaining important relationships I will likely ever read.”

“ … a reader friendly book filled with helpful, practical every day examples.”

THE BOOK

If life is a game, this book tells you how to play it. And win consistently. Written by an expert in influence psychology, The Game of Life reveals which tactics are most effective in changing obnoxious and insensitive behaviours. It demonstrates how to take control of difficult situations and encounters. It provides practical strategies and guiding principles each of us can use to prevent tension and turmoil in important relationships. It tells us how to master the game and thereby enhance the quality of our lives. Which is really what winning is all about.

Unfortunately, “the rules” for success in life are rarely to be found in one place. We tend to learn them from experience, sometimes painful. If only we knew “what to do” before the encounter, our lives could be richer and our relationships more harmonious.

Whatever we do in life – whether buying or selling, persuading superiors or motivating subordinates, dealing with demanding customers or family members – our primary objective is to get others to agree with us. For that accomplishment is central to our ability to satisfy personal or corporate needs, exchange ideas, change attitudes, improve relationships and influence behaviour.

This reader friendly book will help you better understand “the games people play” as well as your own emotions as these games unfold. It will show you why your normal approaches to persuasion are likely ineffective. Discover how to benefit from human nature rather than continuing to fight it. Create opportunities to get your work done without undue frustration, anger and confusion. Take back control of your relationships.

The Game of Life defines the purpose of the game, its primary rules and 14 of the most challenging players you are ever likely to encounter. These players can be the bane of our existence and they are largely immune to our usual methods of influence. Unfortunately, we probably know most of them. For they are people with whom we work or live or deal with as customers or clients. They are also people you have not yet met, but likely will.

When you discover how to play and win the game of life, you will experience life with greater intensity than ever before. Knowing the important principles and the heretofore unwritten rules of the game will enable you to play more masterfully, as well as with grace and style.

What’s In It?

The Game of Life will tell you how to:

  • Turn conflict into opportunities for cooperation in five easy-to-learn steps (see page 18)
  • Say “no” diplomatically to requests that make you feel uncomfortable (page 67)
  • Get anyone to listen to your point of view (page 71)
  • Learn simple but effective strategies for changing abusive and insensitive behaviours (page 83)
  • Express your anger so others will actually hear you and take action (page 28)
  • Discover the single, most important technique to correct problem behaviour (page 69)
  • Tap into nine power sources that are right at your finger tips (page 41)
  • Use a proven technique for getting people to align with your interests (page 166)
  • Know when it is best to give up on a relationship and move on (page 82).

These and other insights and strategies will enable you to be a winner in The Game of Life!

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